Step-by-step guide to planning a celebration of life

A celebration of life - a remembrance of a person's achievements, relationships and the good things they brought into the world - is becoming a popular alternative to a traditional memorial service. These tend to be less formal and less religious in nature, and have more of a happy tone than a somber one.

Here is a step-by-step guide to help plan a celebration of life:

Step 1:  Focus on the departed and the mourners

As the name implies, these events are meant to celebrate the life of your loved one. But just like more-formal funerals, a celebration of life also helps family and friends say goodbye. This event will help everyone begin the healing process.  

Step 2: Invite ideas from the loved one’s inner circle

Those who loved the person they lost can find comfort and perhaps closure by helping to plan the celebration of life. Invite and encourage their input and ideas. Discuss the details of the event and welcome their suggestions. Like you, they are grieving too. 

Step 3: Decide on a venue

The place of a celebration of life can vary greatly. It can be held in a catering hall, a place of worship, a private residence or a community space. Remember to consider any audio-visual needs, food preparation, accessibility and parking.

Step 4: Decide who will be invited and when it will take place

Although most funeral services are open to the public, celebrations of life may have to be limited due limitation of venues -- such as if it's held at a private residence. Consider planning a convenient weekend if out-of-town guests are expected, for example, and think about asking family for a few convenient dates before settling on arrangements.

Step 5: What refreshments will be served?

A celebration of life doesn’t need to have a multi-course meal, but beverages and some food are expected. Speak to the group planning the event to discuss the budget and their ideas. A practical idea could be a potluck, where several attendees bring dishes for a buffet-style meal. Others may choose to have the event catered, as they might for a party, or to hold the celebration in the event space at a favorite restaurant.

Step 6: Music and readings

A celebration of life will be meaningful for everyone attending, and music, readings, religious prose (if applicable) and remembrances from friends are welcome, even expected. Selecting music that was special for the departed is comforting and inspiring. If there is a friend or family member who is a musician, they may want to perform or sing.  

Step 7:  Pick photos or videos of remembrance

Photos of a loved one are often on display and videos are commonly shown. Make the decision a collective one when selecting photos or videos.